I am just starting out with Intuitive Eating, I just got done with my first week and it's so hard! When I was dieting I weighed myself everyday, and now I've stopped, and since I don't need to lose weight I feel like I'm gaining weight! I always have to make sure what I eat has not made me too bloated, and I'm really scared I'm getting flabbier around the middle. I was happy my first few days of this, but right now I'm feeling like I can't get it right and I'm eating too much. Did anyone else feel like this when they were first starting?

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I feel like this too Kendall, and I just started a couple of weeks ago.  I think part of it is a temporary adjustment to a different eating style, and it also may just be fear.  I have not weighed in several days and I am so used to that element of control.  I think the fear of the number creeping it up without my knowing might be making me feel bigger.  Hang in there, I really believe it will all be worth it!

Carmen

It really does take time and a willingness to give something like eating, as we were intended to, a good go. Isn't it amazing, and even a little sad that we are so willing to fault ourselves and listen to (diet) 'experts' who tell us NOT to trust our own bodies?

Take it as slow and easy as you need and if you can let go of needing to be doing this 'right', I think you will find that IE begins to make more sense and begins to work for you too.

Don't weight , WAIT ;-) Wait for hunger, taste, satisfaction and happily 'gain' IE :-) Its been the most wonderful 'gain' I ever made - Katcha

Absolutely! I started reading the book about a week and a half ago. Don't get me wrong... I have felt so much liberation that gaining a few pounds to start this off is completely worth it for me. I re-read "Principle #3- Making peace with food" in there, it indicates that this may be a scary time for shifting behavior/mentality towards food. I've made the list of foods... today I ate doughnuts, the difference this time around is that I ALLOW myself to enjoy it the whole time. Not gonna lie, when I walked into the store and was making my careful selections of the kinds of doughnuts I felt as though people were judging me, and when I paid for them I questioned if I was doing the "right" thing giving in to my craving. But then I reminded myself that this is a process. Something wonderful happened... I actually stopped eating when I felt it was enough!! I think we just need to trust ourselves completely and look at the big picture: good relationship with food and our bodies will guide the healing. 

Thanks for the info, I had  a great moment Intuitive Eating today! I was super hungry this morning and had my usual breakfast and still wasn't full, I waited until later and had a light snack, then a light lunch and I was still hungry! I allowed myself a couple snacks that were satisfying and it felt good, I was just listening to my body and didn't think about it. Then in one of my classes (I am in high school) we had a pizza party, and I was not going to have any, but I was hungry and I had two peices and felt satisfied and not guilty. I was hungry at dinner and ate what I wanted without thinking about it, I just ate because I was hungry without experiencing guilt, it felt so great. I'm feeling like IE will get easier and better.

p.s. (this says this reply is from Kylie Heintzelman, my sister, it's from Kendall, I didn't realize I was logged into her account haha)

 

Hi Kendall,

 

I can completely relate to the type of fear you're describing. It's really hard to let go and just let your body do it's thing...whether that means getting flabbier or getting leaner or staying the same.  I think a lot of this process is about stopping the self-hatred and self loathing and being in the moment, now and learning to accept that this IS YOUR body, right now.  I'm learning to ask myself...what if this is what it will always be like, forever.  Do I want to spend the rest of my life hating myself? No. So I'm trying to focus on the positive things that my body does do for me and draw on that inner strength.

 

Hang in there. This is a huge shift in thinking for all of us...it's a journey but it's so good to know we have a community to support each other!

 

joy to you,

Bethany

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